Hi mama,
Becoming a mum is life-changing — exciting, overwhelming, and sometimes downright scary. If you’ve ever wondered whether your worries are “normal,” here’s some reassurance: you’re definitely not alone. These are 10 of the most common concerns first-time mums in Australia share — and a little encouragement for each one.
1. “I don’t know what I’m doing.”
Every mum feels this at some point. Babies don’t come with manuals, and the learning curve is steep. Trust me — instincts kick in, and you’ll figure it out as you go.
2. “I’m so exhausted.”
Sleep deprivation is real, and it’s one of the hardest parts of those early months. Even short rests matter — and yes, the messy house can wait.
3. “Why is breastfeeding so hard?”
From latching struggles to supply worries, it’s not always the “natural” process people make it out to be. Reaching out for support from a lactation consultant or midwife can make a huge difference.
4. “Why do I feel so anxious?”
Hormones, big changes, and exhaustion can stir up huge emotions. Feeling anxious doesn’t mean you’re failing — it means you’re human. If it feels overwhelming, talk to your GP or a service like PANDA.
5. “I don’t feel like myself anymore.”
Motherhood changes everything — identity, priorities, even your social life. It’s okay to miss parts of your “old” life. Finding small moments for yourself helps.
6. “Am I caring for my baby the right way?”
Bathing, nappy changing, clipping tiny nails — it all feels terrifying at first. With practice (and maybe a few Google searches at 2am), it gets easier.
7. “Is my baby okay?”
From feeding amounts to crying fits, mums constantly worry about their baby’s wellbeing. Regular checkups and growth milestones are there for reassurance.
8. “My emotions are all over the place.”
Tears, irritability, and sensitivity are part of the postpartum rollercoaster. But if it feels too heavy, don’t push through alone — support is out there.
9. “The house is a disaster.”
Here’s the truth: no one’s house looks perfect in the newborn stage. Laundry piles, dishes stack up — but your baby won’t remember a tidy home, they’ll remember a present mum.
10. “I feel so alone.”
Motherhood can feel isolating, especially without nearby family. Online groups, local mum circles, or even a simple coffee with another parent can make a world of difference.
Final Thoughts
If these worries sound familiar, breathe. Every mum has felt them, and every mum finds her own way through. You’re doing better than you think.
With love and solidarity,
Renata (Ollie’s Mum) 💛